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3 Tips For Achieving Goals

I’ve never successfully executed a New Year’s resolution. I guess you could say I’m in the “norm”. I used to have high hopes, set unrealistic resolutions and watch them fizzle as the weeks pass. But not achieving the goals set by my resolutions wasn’t the problem. The problem was feeling like a loser when I didn’t achieve them. I felt discouraged and hopeless. And the worst was the loss of confidence. When you start to lose confidence in yourself, the hopelessness sets in and you stop trying before you know it.

There are a few things I’ve learned over the years that have helped me in achieving my goals. Certain milestones have come with certain lessons. Let me share those lessons I’ve learned with you.

One Small Thing At A Time

We’ve all heard this tip, but I’m here to remind you that all those small achievements add up to something big. And that something big is your confidence. Once you build up your confidence and know you’re the badass you always knew you were, your goals and resolutions will get bigger and grander. You’ll be able to see the new “you” and visualize the “you” you’ve always wanted to be.

A few years back, I kept hearing about the benefits of meditating, journaling, gratitude journaling, vision boarding, taking a cold shower… the list goes on and on. A tale as old as time: I tried to implement all of those things, all at once. Surprise surprise, none of them stuck. I revisited this list, and started with what I thought would be the easiest task for me to complete every morning, and that was journaling. After a few months, I added making a list of gratitudes. After another few months, I started meditating. And soon I had a morning routine that helped me mentally and physically, and has benefited me enormously. It’s helped me realize and create my dream life.

So start small like saving $1 everyday, making sure all the dishes are clean before going to bed (I’m still working on this one), standing and stretching at least once an hour while working (another one I’m still working on) or flossing your teeth every night. And when those small tasks seem daunting, make them smaller. Save $0.50 a day, make sure all your dishes are in the sink soaking, stand and stretch at least once every 90 minutes and floss your teeth every other night. Just start with one small thing, build upon it and don’t give up.

Do It Now

January 1st seems like a great time to make changes. Or even the start of a week. Or maybe your birthday. But I am here to tell you that every single day is the same, and you should start right now. Start whenever the mood strikes. Start whenever you have the thought that “you should”. I was a smoker for over 11 years. I smoked between two and three packs a day, and I smoked Marlboro Red’s… and lights, and light 100’s, and Camel Lights. I pretty much smoked whatever I could get my hands on. I quit on a Tuesday in March at lunchtime. I was standing outside of my office building on Park Ave., waiting for my lunch to be delivered. And I flung my cigarette butt into the street and said to myself, “That’s it. That’s my last one.” And it was. I threw out the rest of my pack and haven’t touched a cigarette since. Of course I had passing thoughts of quitting before then. And what I remember most was not wanting to smell like stale cigarette smoke anymore. I was standing outside of that office building, getting constant whiffs of the smoke floating by from other smokers and from my own cigarette and I got frustrated. It was something I would never be able to get away from unless I quit. Ironically, I was living with two smokers at the time and I would still smell like smoke, but not as badly. My point is that you should just do it. Do it when the mood strikes, and make that change. Don’t wait until Monday. Don’t wait until you finish that pack. Just do it now.

Make It Meaningful

About a year after quitting smoking, I decided to start working out again. I had been active in high school, and occasionally during college and afterwards. But I didn’t have a regular routine and I wasn’t a member of any gym. I knew myself well enough to know that I needed to actually FEEL the difference of not smoking to stay away from it. I was young when I quit, so it wasn’t like I was fighting a disease yet or was told by the doctor that I had three months to live if I didn’t quit. But I knew if I started to do something that a smoker wouldn’t be able to do easily, I would be able to feel the difference and eventually feel improvement. That’s when I started running. Running gave me the reason to stay away from cigarettes. And that’s what I needed to keep going. It became more than just “not smoking because it’s bad for me” – this esoteric, abstract, pie-in-the-sky reason, and instead became the reason I could run which was a concrete, very real reason. A short seven years after quitting smoking, I ran the NYC Marathon.

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  • Liz Lyons

    Michele, I appreciate these suggestions. I typically have some sort of lounge membership and a bunch of credit cards, but have balked at the $700 annual fee too. If I traveled these days the way I used to, I am sure it would be well worth it. Still, I do like to travel comfortably — I was never one of those youth hostel types. My standard hotels were the Ritz, George v, Excelsior, Hassler, Claridge, etc., so I truly like the way you do things. I hate to suffer and would rather stay home than travel too frugally. I am taking notes all the time from your blogs and vlogs as I think our esthetic is similar. Thanks again for all of it. 😊💖

    • admin

      Thank you Liz! I’m taking not of your list. xoxo

  • Proxima Centauri

    Thank you for an inspiring content, as always ❤️ I was curious about the purpose of the Masterclass. What does it mean? Studies?

    • admin

      Thank you! Masterclass is a website where you can sign up to have access to a classes taught by very successful people in the field.

  • Christina O'Connell

    I gushed in the youtube comments but will continue here – the foundation is a dream and pushed all my others aside. I’m 72, dry skin and very (very) fair yet I was able to find a shade that gives my skin life snd is flawless no matter how ling my day is. I also love the cleanser -it makes my skin look and feel so good which I’ve never said about a cleanser. I can’t wait for your reviews of the rest of the skincare.

  • Lola Denham

    I ordered the foundation this week! I’m 45, normal skin with a shiny t-zone. Fingers crossed! I don’t shop foundation frequently but couldn’t resist a new Prada product!!

  • Rebecca Neely

    Such lovely words and very well said. I can hear your love for the collection and Pharrell through your words. I also like the “damoflage”. As the daughter of a former military member, it brings back some good memories.

  • Charli

    Love what you chose!
    Did you see that LV & Pharrell have invited an indigenous person to collaborate with them for a collection? I’m sorry, their name has slipped my mind. I’m so excited to see what they come up with.

  • Christina O'Connell

    What a wonderful essay Michele — your joy in the video in your new Pharrell’s is so well matched by the discussion of his influence and genius Thank you!

  • Louise Sharpy

    That show was it in Honk Kong. Wow. And then the drones at the end. Holy cool. I would love a piece of it. Sadly I can’t , but I’ll live thru you. I love it. Saw some pieces I would love to own. Even a trunk purse

  • Amrit

    I am looking to get into murder mysteries since my goal is to read for fun again. What murder mystery books or series do you recommend for a newbie?

    • admin

      If you’re interested in a Victorian era series, my favorite is from Charles Finch which are the Charles Lenox mysteries.

  • Claudia De La Brena

    Hola Michele!! Feliz inicio de año!! Love your vlog!! Thank you for the nice and interesting 2023 videos, news and recommendations!! Wish you the best for this 2024!! Love and hugs from Austria!! Gracias!!!

  • Louise Sharpy

    I love that you made a goal on ONE pull up. Those are the goals I like. I never spend on myself really for “nicer” things. I can’t go and buy luxury purses or clothes which I would love. Just can’t happen. Sadly. But , I will be spending on skincare. La mer (my wish list) and a nice pair of shoes or boots. Those will be my luxury items. As for goals. Mine is plainly “MOVE” my body. Just walk ! Thank you for a wonderful 2023 (and past ) can’t wait for 2024. Also that vlog of your trip. So fun Xo

  • Christina

    Always such a treat to see your newsletter and blog appear, especially as we start the year. Your choice to make wellbeing a priority is helping me stay on track for my journey — now if I could just get better at updating my hobonichi!
    Happy New Year!

    • admin

      Thank you so much Christina – HNY!!

  • Purdy

    Hello Michele and Happy 2024! I am subscribed to your YouYube, IG and newsletter! I love everything that you are about and embody! =-) Here’s to an amazing year of the 50s to you. Would you be able to share the name of your trainer?

    • admin

      Hi! Yes – his handle is @truehulkfitness on Instagram, where you can contact him. And his name is Nathan. Thank you!

  • Louise Sharpy

    I saw that bag and I knew it would be one you would love. I also saw a blazer and the jacket. It’s funny. I know you and when I saw her release. I’m like. “Yup Michele “ 😊😊💋

    • admin

      Ha! You know me so well, Louise! xoxo

  • Angela

    Hi Michele! Your Mishmas series is always so much fun. You may have forgotten the wonderful coffee advent calendars. Where you woke up to a different, delicious cup of coffee every morning! 😀☕️

    • admin

      OK a coffee advent calendar has been selected!! I’ll post about it on my YouTube community tab soon! xoxo thx for your feedback!

    • admin

      OK looking into a coffee advent calendar! 😀 Thanks so much for the feedback! xoxo

  • Gina

    Hi Michele!!! Please please don’t let us without the coffee calendar!!! The mishmas vlogs are my best YouTube time in December for take a time and relax with my cup of coffee and enjoying with you like a friends 😉

    • admin

      OK a coffee advent calendar has been selected!! I’ll post about it on my YouTube community tab soon! xoxo thx for your feedback!

    • admin

      OK you’re the second person to comment about the coffee calendar! I’ll have to look into one now!

  • Tabitha Staffhorst

    Dr. Jart+ Beauty Balm….. how many times have you told us it was your favorite!!! So why did it take me so long to finally try it!!!! I got my hands on a bottle during this Sephora sale and OMG!!! I LOVE IT!!! Thank You!!
    Did you try the Haus Labs new eye shadow palettes?? Also, what happened to the coffee advent calendar!?!?

    • admin

      OK a coffee advent calendar has been selected!! I’ll post about it on my YouTube community tab soon! xoxo thx for your feedback!

    • admin

      Ohh I’m so happy you love it!! It’s just so special! I haven’t tried much for the new Haus Labs line, so I have to get on it. And I’ve passed up on the coffee advent calendar because I realized I like my certain bean (sumatra) and like starting my day with that one! xoxo

  • Molly Baker

    Hi Michele! Lovely blog post. I really enjoyed it because I adore this time of year! I love the tradition of you drinking a hot cup of coffee (with your Xmas bear!) & opening advent calendars. I look forward to it & like you said, just adds a little special cheer to my day :)One other calendar if you’re into K-beauty/J-beauty is from Stylevana!! That would be something different & fun.
    I shopped the Sephora sale, probably buying too much, but oh well. I got Natasha Denona’s Xenon palette, Huda’s Grunge palette, some nice highlighters by Charlotte Tilbury, Tom Ford & Bare Minerals & a few other goodies I won’t bore you with, lol. Have a great wknd & can’t wait for mishmas♥️

    • admin

      Thanks Molly! I’ll check out that K-Beauty calendar – that would be different! And sounds like you had fun during the Sephora sale <3 love it! xoxo

  • Claudia De La Brena

    Hi dear Michele!! I love your favorites palette eyeshadows! I used the eye quard cream shadows from Tom Ford and I love them!! Definitely I want to get the Cle de Peau quard eye shadows! The colors are so nice and I saw your video on YouTube about them and you look so pretty!! Thank you for the article!! I really enjoy reading and watching your blog posts and videos on YouTube! You inspire me in many ways! Gracias!! ❣️ Best greetings from Austria 🇦🇹🇲🇽

    • admin

      Thank you so much Claudia!

  • Molly Baker

    Love to hear what Fall palettes you’ve been loving, Michele! I’ve recently subscribed to your blog posts and am really enjoying them :). I agree with you about the Natasha Denona I Need A Nude palette. It’s perfect for daily use or for going out at night!! Really quick ? I have regarding makeup is if you had to choose between Prada foundation & the new Shiseido one, which are you choosing & why?! Xoxo

    • admin

      I haven’t tried the Prada one yet!

  • Maria

    Wow! Your 49th year on this earth was amazing. Congratulations on turning 50. Hope you’re blessed with many, many more healthy years.

    • admin

      Thank you so much Maria!

  • Liz Lyons

    Fifty is a milestone. I saw it as my entry into true adulthood and it was a bit scary. But, I am on the other side of it now and, like you, my goal is to keep fit, stay optimistic, and be a joy to my friends and family. Happy Birthday, Michele. Thank you for being, well, you!

    • admin

      Thank you Liz! xoxo

  • Janna M Matsuoka

    “I want to live a life with no regrets. That’s both a simple and lofty goal, but one worth pursuing.” This is so well said. I enjoyed reading your birthday blog. So many things restarted with me. Thank you.

    • admin

      Thanks so much Janna!

  • Julie Swann

    Happiest belated bday, Michele! I certainly second both the method and intentions of celebration. I so enjoy hearing from you here and on YouTube. And I was moved by your discussion there about how relationships, big and small, are what matters. Thank you!

    • admin

      Thank you so much Julie!

  • Charli

    Great review! If it was in my budget I would grab it. It’s a gorgeous bag with personality. ~ Charli

    • admin

      Thanks Charli!

  • Frances

    This bag went to the top of my wish list as soon as I got the email from Loewe. It’s definitely a new classic. I am of the quiet luxury type. My row bags get the most use and my summer Loewe bag. Squeeze is just what I’ve been looking for.

    • admin

      <3 <3 <3

  • Louise Sharpy

    I love how you show cases the basic or pieces that can be really worn with anything. I miss FALL COLORS , dressing with warm jackets and boots. Living in Az , well if goes from desert, to barely green. It really gets cold at night. But the back north east ? girl in me gets excited for fall (Michigan) love xo Louise

    • admin

      Thanks Louise!!

  • Susan Petty Moneyhon

    I’ve worn the same perfume since college —Guerlain, L’Heure Bleue. Nothing else smells like me.

    • admin

      How wonderful! Thank you Susan <3

  • Brenda

    Catching a whiff of a perfume can send me deep into my memory banks. I love perfume and my collection has grown exponentially over the past 3 or 4 years. At last count I was pushing 80. My latest is Tutu by Gritti which is much more floral than what I normally gravitate towards. It reminds me of Amazing Grace which I wore many many years ago except Tutu is much more sophisticated. I’m a sucker for a gourmand fragrance. Amber and vanilla anything will call my name. Some of my favorite perfumes to wear of late are Coffee Addict by Theodoros Kalotinis, Vicious Cacao by Maison Tahite, Bake by Akro, Nuit et Confidences by Goutal, Apple Brandy and Love Don’t be Shy Eau Fraiche by Killian and L’Interdit Rouge by Givenchy. As I look at this list, I’m sitting here thinking about so many more that I love. Hard to choose favorites! This is a wonderful topic. Thank you.

    • admin

      Thank you so much for all these fragrances I have to check out now! Amazing Brenda! xoxo

  • Liz Lyons

    What a lovely and welcome topic. I too have a perfume “wardrobe”, but not 75! Mine is closer to 40. For years I wore Houbigant’s Chantilly. My dad was a perfumer, so we had blotters with all kinds of scents all over our house. My mother wore Joy and left me a few bottles that I now treasure. I love Bal a Versailles and Charles Blair of Paris, but I am a Guerlain girl and own a dozen of those that I rotate now. I still wear Chantilly from time to time. I am intrigued by that Sicilian Leather and would like to try it. I am also going to try Izia la Nuit, just love the name. Thanks for this, Michele. I think you are closer to genius than madness, LOL.

    • admin

      Thanks Liz! Wow, that’s amazing that your dad was a perfumer. You must have a very sophisticated scent palette! I definitely have to dabble more into Guerlain.

  • Gaynor Witts

    I absolutely enjoy different fragrances in different seasons. Each winter i look forward to Grand Soir by MFK, it’s so spicy and tobacco, just perfect for cold weather, my knitwear smells of it! It’s too much in summer when i’m living in white flower fragrances or my beautiful Another 13 from Le Labo. I love having many different ones to choose from and always feel like it’s finishing my outfit and matching a mood for my day ❤️

    • admin

      Oh I just got a sample of Grand Soir and I LOVE IT!! It’s so warm and made me think of winter too!And I’ll have to try Another 13. Thank you for the recommendations!

  • Louise Sharpy

    It’s funny, from someone that can never buy anything ..this is more , to me, do I buy it because I want everyone to think I have money ? Or would I buy this if I could ..I don’t see this fitting in really to either. If I were to buy, it would only be for the LOVE of the product. Now since I don’t own a lot of designer brands , would I be in any of these categories? Interesting tho for sure. I do love the way they categorize the two tho. If I were to be able to afford luxury , it’s not to say “hey i bought this so I’m fancy” or “ i can afford it “ it’s for the love of how it’s made, how it feels on, or if it’s something I love to see Quiet luxury isn’t like a label for me. Interesting read tho. Would these be for cars we drive as well? ? I see the difference tho for sure Great read for sure. Thank you

    • admin

      Thank you always for your thoughtful comments, Louise! xoxo

  • Mona Khan

    Loved this article! I can’t agree with you more. 😘🩷

    • admin

      Thanks Mona!!

  • Grey

    I do definitely tend toward quiet luxury — although I will still occasionally make the “concert t-shirt” type of purchase, something that blatantly yells, “I was there!” I would say that I take quiet luxury one step further, though. I tend to prefer luxury that will last. I’ll spend money on a pair of shoes that will last for years, rather than fresh flowers. When I buy luxury makeup, it’s almost always in classic colors (mostly neutrals) and applications.

    • admin

      Thank you for sharing your insights!

  • Dianelys (SimplyDee Beauty)

    My style is gravitating more towards quiet luxury. Not necessarily luxury bags or shoes (although I do own a couple) but enjoying the expensive hand soap and candles, those little luxuries that only I know. I want to enjoy them for me, not just for others to see. xoxo

    • admin

      Thanks Dee – I love choosing and selecting special little luxuries to spoil ourselves!

  • Molly Baker

    I tried your method of application and it worked wonderfully! I have dark under eye circles etc so was pleasantly surprised when I tried the Peau de Rose shade on my fair skin! Love it.

  • Thelma Hill

    These products look wonderful on you. The colors and tones are a perfect match to your complexion.

  • Linda

    My skin is so much more textured (read: large pores) than yours appears in the closeup top of page, I’ve forever been leery of all highlighters, as they exaggerate the pores without fail. But this looks lovely on your already-beautiful skin, Michele!

  • Liz Lyons

    I ordered the Peau de Rose and am looking forward to it. Your trip to Italy was lovely and I am now considering adding at least Milan and Venice to my trip to France next year. I like the variety in your YT vlogs, Michele. And the fact that you cover luxury items that most people do not. While I can’t buy every luxury item I want, I do purchase some strategically on a regular basis and appreciate seeing them on a real person.

    • admin

      Thank you so much Liz!

  • Dianelys (SimplyDee Beauty)

    I’m also loving the WA Liquid Loaded, mine in the shade Peau de Peche. I did a comparison with the new Chanel Skin Enhancer. Also lovely but I find the WA does a better job of highlighting and natural look appearance. Its such a lovely product.

    • admin

      Thanks Dee!

  • Nancy

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    • admin

      Hi Nancy, at the bottom of the homepage, you can enter in your email address to subscribe to the newsletter. Thank you!

  • Dianelys

    Great suggestions! I used to dislike the rose scent when I was younger but as I mature, I’ve started to appreciate it more and more. I’m down for it!

    Xoxo

    • admin

      Thank you Dee!

  • Julie Swann

    Enjoyed this so much, along with the brand trip to NYC.

    • admin

      Thanks so much Julie!

  • Irene

    Michele, your blog has helped me so much. Thank you. I am going through a traumatic experience right now, and your suggestions are resonating with me in a comforting way. I am enjoying your blog posts and hope to hear more life content. Again, thank you! One step at a time!

  • Ioana Androne

    Thank you for the article. It is very inspirational.

  • Charli

    I don’t know what to journal. I literally live such a boring life due to my chronic illness and chronic pain that I don’t know what to journal about. I don’t want to journal about my chronic conditions because that’s depressing to me. I literally just stopped writing here and looked up How To Journal lol. It actually was helpful, there are journal prompts. I do have goals, it’s just hard because of how I feel changes day to day and I can’t count on myself to feel physically well enough to do something each day that I get frustrated and depressed. It’s a lot for me to just do the dishes, take a shower, etc much less do something extra like start a YouTube channel or post more on ig. I’m lucky though, my husband is very supportive and he said just try to post once a week. And that’s what I’m going to try to do.
    Thank you for listening <3 xo Charli

  • Julia

    Wow Michele! I feel inspired now to start exercising. I used to always take exercise in school. When I moved to the US I took Physical Ed and realized most girls didn’t. I was kind of shocked. I don’t smoke anymore either! But I don’t like running on Rt.66. This Covid made me gain way too much. Moreover, I love to read. Thus the weight gain. Am not sure where to begin. If I had my way I’d have a private instructor. Hah! Any suggestions are always welcome. Thanks Michele.

  • Dianelys (SimplyDee Beauty)

    It’s been in my wishlist for the past few weeks. It’s so unique and practical at the same time. I like how it doesn’t have the brand showing up everywhere, it’s more subtle. So beautiful ♥️

    • admin

      ❤️ ❤️ ❤️

  • Dianelys (SimplyDee Beauty)

    I love the highlighter. Its smooth and soft, not chalky or glittery. Looks natural too. Just lovely! My favorite is Moonlit (it’s the only one I’ve tried lol); I think it’s the best for my skin tone. Thank you for your review and comparisons. ♥️

    • admin

      Thanks so much Dee!

  • Ellen

    I went to the outdoor market at Bryant Park while I was in NY during November. I found a store that sold the most amazing candle. Twelve Nights by Fifth&Madison has become my favorite holiday candle. My new addiction for holidays.

    • admin

      Sounds wonderful – thank you for sharing Ellen!

  • Lisa Murcer

    Wow, I want to be at your house for Christmas. Just to meet you, and family.

    Along, with the sensory overload! 😊😊❣️

  • Dianelys (SimplyDee Beauty)

    I love candles too! I prefer fresher scents rather than holiday ones (some scents give me a migraine). Regardless, candles do change your mood, and the room’s atmosphere. Thank you for sharing your favorites for this season 🙂

    • admin

      Thanks Dee! -Michele

  • Emily

    I’m glad you had a wonderful trip, Michele. Thank you for sharing it with all of us. I am also really enjoying your new website. I feel like we get to see another facet of you through your written posts. You’re the cool older sister I wish I had. I hope you and your family have a wonderful Thanksgiving!!

  • Mary

    The trip looks and sounds fabulous. Did you go with a tour? Any suggestions or contacts for booking?
    You look great and like you are having a wonderful time! Thanks so much for sharing.

  • ROXANNE

    I am so behind on your videos but I cannot wait to get caught up on Morocco! What an amazing trip and I really appreciate hearing what brings you comfort and joy upon returning home. There is nothing like home. Hope you have a wonderful Thanksgiving with your mom, husband, and Miss Butters! I cannot wait to check out your spreadsheet!

  • Louise Sharpy

    Thank you for sharing these amazing pictures. And your words of travel ! I’m excited you have come back. A comfort to me, and I know we haven’t met , but still getting excited for your posts, tik toks, etc. HAPPY THSNKSGIVING to you all. My Miss MONA (beagle) gives her best to Miss FUZZY BUTTERS. I also spend time with my 93 old mom , my daughter, my man and some some family. I have 10 other brothers and sisters. 🤨🤨😜they all live around. They are 4 here in Az looking forward to your posts ! Thanks Michele

  • Christina

    What a lovely meditation on the joys of travel and of home. Thank you Michele for all you share with us. And thanks for the spreadsheet and the amazing discount!

  • Julie Swann

    I’m grateful for YOU, Michele, along with my other blessings. I think it’s so valuable that you remind us of that practice and part of what draws me to your vlog, in particular, is your honesty. May we all experience good health, passion and thankfulness!

  • Annette

    So good to see you Michele! You look great on a camel!! Thanks so much for sharing your adventure(s) and thanks for the great spreadsheet. You always go the extra mile. Now I am off to look at your store sale! Love, Annette (Armonk, NY)

  • Julie Swann

    So enjoyed this post and also your candid vlog posts (been watching old ones)! Thanks

  • Kerri

    Quick note: link broken….when you click on the tom ford eyeshadow quad, the chanel lipstick link pops up.

    • admin

      Thank you so much!!

  • Christina

    What a truly gorgeous site – such perfect design and calm look mixed with content that has your unique voice.

  • LaShae'

    LOVING your new blog. Congratulations!!

  • Charli

    Fabulous! Such a beautiful blog! Congratulations Michele! x Charli

  • Louise Sharpy

    I am so very excited for you ! I love the new logo , and I’m so excited for this sweatshirt. It’s so you ! Congratulations. Love you and I am so proud of you. Xo long time follower xo

  • Keyna

    This is just like you beautiful, sophisticated and fun.
    Best wishes

  • Tammy

    Hi. Where can I see more photos of the shirt would love to purchase one
    Thank you